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I started my journey with DHS and Northcare

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about March, I can say, or Februaryish,

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and the process started with me needing help

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overall with my family and I was going through

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a little bit of issues with myself

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and I needed help.

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So I actually had a meeting with DHS

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and they offered Northcare's organization to me.

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The first person that I met through Northcare,

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her name was Trulisa and she was

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an intensive services woman, I guess,

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and she was a very, very, very beautiful person.

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She was caring about my situation.

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She was real lax, she wasn’t like strict, you know,

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she wasn’t pressing me with the situation.

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She came in like really caring about her job, you know,

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and I took a liking to her and she took a liking to me

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and we met every day for about a month

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and then it went, the visits went down

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as I progressed and we just went over like coping skills,

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anger management, we went over things

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that I could do different as a mother,

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as a parent, as a spouse,

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and I 'm actually enrolled in Rose State College

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right now for Business Administration

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so it would be days that I would have appointments

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that she would come to campus to see me

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or at home and um, actually Trulisa

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was very good at what she does

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and she made things convenient for me too.

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Like if I couldn’t get to Northcare or a certain

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appointment that I had she would come get me

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and take me to the site.

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if I couldn’t get there like low on gas and stuff like that.

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So, it was a real help.

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It actually help me a lot with my stress and my anxiety.

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Because they gave me counseling and therapy.

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So, like I said, me being a single mom

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I deal with a lot.

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I have three personalities I deal with day in

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and day out and just everyday life,

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like it would be days that Trulisa would

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come out and I’m at 100 and she would calm me down.

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So it gave me an insight of to be more patient

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with myself and knowing that I’m just one person

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and I can’t do it all and that I do have an

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organization behind me that’s there to help me.

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I can call her and talk to her.

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You know, it just helped me to be more patient.

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It helped me to stay focused on my goals

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to being a better parent.

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I’m a people person.

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I can light up a room but some days you don’t

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feel like you want to go anywhere,

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so when she would come to the house.

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It was more convenient for me

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and I felt more comfortable not knowing

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these people and just opening up
to strangers, period, you know.

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Some people don’t like to let people

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into their private and coming to my house,

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like it would be, somedays like I would have

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toys everywhere, dishes need to be cleaned.

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She would actually sit and we’ll have our, not group,

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but like our meeting and I would

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be washing dishes while she is talking to me

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or I’ll start picking up and she didn’t mind that,

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you know what I’m saying.

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She knew what I was doing.

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I’m not a dirty person but she was just like,

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I can have my day.

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You know, do my thing but still have to wrap up

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and calm down and she would bring me back

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to the task at hand, what I needed to do

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and get our meeting over with.

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But the meetings weren’t long.

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They would take about an hour, forty -five minutes

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to an hour, you know, but coming out

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to the house and me not having

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to go all the time to the actual site is a plus,

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yes it is, for them to come out.

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I was crying out for help.

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I did need counseling.

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The process would have been to where the kids

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weren’t around.

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I don’t think I would have been able to cope with that.

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My workers was so, so good at making sure

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that I wasn’t stressed out about where my kids

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were going to be at, who was going to monitor me

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or she didn’t really want me to worry about that.

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She made sure everything was right on point

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right then and there.

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So I really do appreciate DHS for that.

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I’m a person that’s been there from day one

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and it has been me.

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So I’m pretty much all they know.

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So for them to be at home with me

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and to be able to stay home was a very,

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it was a plus all around.

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It really was for them.

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Just the counseling within itself

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and the classes that I’ve been taking

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has helped me tremendously

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and I see a change within me,

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but I’m not saying I’m a better person

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but the process and the program

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has made me a better person, it really

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has in a way.

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After Trulisa stepped down, I started with a

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program within Northcare’s organization

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called Chubs and I have a person that comes out

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to see me.

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She is very, very loving and she cares a lot

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about me and my kids.

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I’m still in the process of doing parenting

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and we do different modules

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on just me staying focused

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even teaching me how to budget

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and just coming out to the house

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and teaching me how to interact

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with my kids too, better now that I’m sober.

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People always think that when

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DHS does get involved that it’s

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bad or that like the kids will be taken away

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from the home and that’s not always the case.

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And if you do need help you can call and get help.

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You don’t have to hide behind a closed door

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and not think that there’s agencies

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out there that won’t help because Northcare

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and DHS has helped me.

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So the programs are definitely, definitely a plus

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to families that are in need.

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Don’t think that they want to get

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in your business and judge you

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because that’s not the case.

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They are there to help, to see what’s going on

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with you, to see what you need as a person.

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My self-esteem has changed, my personality too.

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I’m not so angry, I’m not so frustrated.

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I’m more calm, you know.

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It’s a thing like when you feel like you don’t have

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nobody, you’re all over the place

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and me being able to have help

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and have people that I can call on keeps me

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at peace, you know peace of mind, you know.

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I am, I can sit here and say that I have changed.

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I made a step to change and anybody can do it

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as long as you put your mind to it

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and you have people like Northcare and DHS

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to help you can do it.

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Nothing is impossible, nothing is at all.

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So, that’s what I would say, (chuckle).